January 2012

Jerry Tyler

Blue Highways | by Jerry Tyler


If the Best Is to Be, It First Starts with Me

Three Levels of Personal and Collective Growth

There is no better time to take stock of where you are in your career than at the beginning of the New Year.

As the last days of the past year wind down take time to think about what you did that was successful and what you will do differently in the new year to continue growth both personally and professionally.

When I had the opportunity to address a class of graduating future beauty professionals I realized that as my long beauty career was winding down, theirs was just beginning. They were in the first stage of growth -- totally dependant on everything and everyone around them since they had not yet gained the skills to give them the confidence necessary to succeed.

What does it take to make the transition to the next level? Fortunately, this group of beauty professionals had all the right systems in place and the competence to thrive; they had the ability to embrace the information out there to become successful.

First of all, they had a purpose in their lives and were open to receive the knowledge they needed to grow. They were accepting, without bias, and grateful when more experienced beauty professionals shared their knowledge and experience with them. They may struggle learning the new techniques but they were tenacious as they worked to master each new skill.

Their mentors and leaders are mindful of the trust they place on them to show them the right way and are pleased to know the mastery of those techniques are passed on. As the new beauty professionals learn and grow they go from dependent to the next level of being able to work independently.

To enjoy life's true abundance in any pursuit, it is important to first do so as independent spirits. Never wait for things to be given to you or events to just happen. Seek to provide your own path to whatever you wish to conceive and ultimately achieve.

While you may take advantage of opportunities or resources provided, be constantly vigilant as how to make the best use of them.

Remember this: "If the best is to be, it first starts with me." Carefully craft your path and then with one foot in front of the other, deliberately follow it to the intended destination. Ultimately, in every facet of your life, you will thrive, by design, not default, consciously creating as you go.

But you are not finished yet. The next and highest level is the one that evolves beyond what you can produce singularly, once you have maximized your optimal potential and see the merit in growing with the aid of the cooperation of others who think the same as you do.

To reach this level you must become "Interdependent." To do this you integrate with others of like-mind and positive values. The first step is to be clear and have an agreed upon end result. Next seek to create a measured success for all the involved participants.

As everyone in the group share the toil, so shall all enjoy the anticipated reward equal to their effort. Being transparent and truthful in all aspects of the process is important along with always seeking the best practices and never slighting ones integrity with hidden agendas and/or ulterior motives.

The highest resonance achieved in this collective process is when one or more truly whole investors cooperatively merge toward an agreed upon end result. This creates a third or additional harmonious energy. This is defined as "synergy" and is the highest form of positive collective energy that produces even higher than expected results.

The equation becomes 1+1 = 3 or more. One example is how length and width are two dimensional while the addition of depth creates the third dimension.

Relationships that rely on synergy grow and prosper beyond what the collective share takers combine with the added energy that is manifested. Many combined efforts both in business and in relationships fail to prosper because they foster internal competition rather than positive cooperation for the better good of the whole. This undermines the positive intent by negative. The two opposites cannot coexist and create a positive outcome.

Being mindful of these three levels of personal and collective growth can and will assure a positive achievable outcome in any and all facets of life and business continually enriching us and those we partner with.

Jerry Tyler's column Blue Highways is his "Road Less Traveled" perspective on the solutions and challenges facing the beauty industry. Jerry Tyler has been a stylist since 1975 serving as the former artistic director for Vidal Sassoon Academy and currently as Director of Industry Relations for Carlton Hair salons. He is also a licensed cosmetology instructor and has served as President of the California State Board of Barbering and Cosmetology.